There comes a time in everyone’s life when they feel the need to start afresh, with new people or new places, even a new job. Seeking this can never be selfish. I’ve always thought that it was more important to stick around and make sure that everyone else was alright even if it meant sacrificing my own wishes; but this is the furthest thing from the truth. Because of this, my need to please other people had taken over every aspect of my life. Don’t get me wrong, it’s great to put others before yourself and be as selfless and giving as you can be. However I have often let the opinions of others control me.
I’ve never been able to see worth in myself or my work without the validation of another’s opinion out of my constant fear of being disliked. I look to others for advice on personal issues just so that I can do what would seem right and look “better”. When writing I’d always need someone to proof read, not for grammatical errors, but soley for their opinion.
I suppose it’s good to take into consideration the opinions of others; to look for advice from others can provide necessary insight in situations you can’t deal with on your own. But these become burdensome when you deny yourself what you truly want for what others prefer for you. I tend to allow different people to control my actions and ultimately fail when the opinions differ.
I’ve never been the best at risk taking or decision making, but I think it’s time to change that. I am embarking on a new journey henceforth- my own life. My own life based on what my dreams are and what I want for myself. It may sound selfish but I think it’s important to take yourself into consideration sometimes, while still being kind and generous to others. Never feel like putting yourself first is wrong because at the end of the day, we’re all we have.
This is probably not the most helpful first post but I just felt the need to talk some things out. Feel free to contact me via social media or here on the blog if you are going through something similar and would like to share your experiences. I hope to do more posts like this about self empowerment and love in the future. But for now, happy reading!