Growing and Glowing

There comes a time in everyone’s life when they feel the need to start afresh, with new people or new places, even a new job. Seeking this can never be selfish. I’ve always thought that it was more important to stick around and make sure that everyone else was alright even if it meant sacrificing my own wishes; but this is the furthest thing from the truth. Because of this, my need to please other people had taken over every aspect of my life. Don’t get me wrong, it’s great to put others before yourself and be as selfless and giving as you can be. However I have often let the opinions of others control me.

I’ve never been able to see worth in myself or my work without the validation of another’s opinion out of my constant fear of being disliked. I look to others for advice on personal issues just so that I can do what would seem right and look “better”. When writing I’d always need someone to proof read, not for grammatical errors, but soley for their opinion.

I suppose it’s good to take into consideration the opinions of others; to look for advice from others can provide necessary insight in situations you can’t deal with on your own. But these become burdensome when you deny yourself what you truly want for what others prefer for you. I tend to allow different people to control my actions and ultimately fail when the opinions differ.

I’ve never been the best at risk taking or decision making, but I think it’s time to change that. I am embarking on a new journey henceforth- my own life. My own life based on what my dreams are and what I want for myself. It may sound selfish but I think it’s important to take yourself into consideration sometimes, while still being kind and generous to others. Never feel like putting yourself first is wrong because at the end of the day, we’re all we have.

This is probably not the most helpful first post but I just felt the need to talk some things out. Feel free to contact me via social media or here on the blog if you are going through something similar and would like to share your experiences. I hope to do more posts like this about self empowerment and love in the future. But for now, happy reading!

-love, Megan

4 thoughts on “Growing and Glowing

  1. Hello ! I think it is great you have to come to this realization at this young age. People in adulthood have not yet realized these things, hence they struggle in most aspects of their lives. Personally, I was like you until about the age of 23.I learnt my lessons the hard way i think. There were two groups of people I surrounded myself with. One set I had known for years ( high school ) and the next set I met at Uni. Interestingly enough I truly felt my real self with the latter as I was fully valued and respected for my opinions, thoughts, fashion and even liming choices ( I like to go to the movies, cafes, restaurants). One day,after careful thought I took the risk ended the toxic friendships and embraced the great ones. Best decision ever! That was the first time in my life I made a really difficult decision all by myself . I felt proud and somewhat liberated. I didn’t need anyone’s approval. That was me becoming mature. So all in all the lessons I learnt from that situation I apply to every where in my life.

    Maybe somewhere in my little story you relate to ( or maybe not!) .

    Anyway, I think you are on a great path of self-realization and I look forward to more posts from you.

    The Blouse and Jeans Lady.

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